I understand that you feel you don’t have control in any part of this. That started way back in childhood in your parent’s hoarder home. If you’re not in therapy, you may want to talk through your feelings with someone. It will help bring clarity.

She resents her parents’ hoarding because she has to take on all family hosting duties. Dear Eric: I grew up in a hoarding house. My childhood was a nightmare of shame and helplessness. As soon as I was able, I got out of that house.

My parents were hoarders when I was growing up and still are today. I keep my own home neat and tidy but their home is still a disaster. Here’s how it’s affecting my own life.

I grew up in a hoarding house. My childhood was a nightmare of shame and helplessness. As soon as I was able, I got out of that house. I now own my own home with my husband. We make it an inviting and clean space.

In today's Asking Eric column, R. Eric Thomas responds to someone who is negatively impacted by their parents' hoarding habits.

"I don’t want to have to make everyone go to a restaurant to visit. But I resent feeling like I am the only alternative."